Man and woman, to put it mildly, have different views and approaches to the topic of building relationships. If for him it is a hope for romance, mutual understanding and the search for a kindred spirit.
Then for a woman, relationships are a purely pragmatic project. The goal of the project is to make a profit and solve her material problems.
If you think that I am taking it too far, then I can assure you that everything I have said has been tested hundreds of times.
Man, his property.
It must be said that when a woman begins to build a relationship with a man, her main goal is future marriage.
For her, the role of a wife is extremely important, because she wants to be the mistress of her husband.
A woman needs this status in order to smoothly transfer her man’s property to the common in the process of family life.
Man and woman money.
She perceives a man only as a machine for issuing invoices. In this regard, the representative of the stronger sex risks his finances.
The word “work” is not only unacceptable to her, but rather even offensive.
Money is very important to a woman.
A lazy “man” may think that the more he pampers the lady with gifts and surprises, the stronger and brighter her love for him will be.
He, completely without thinking about his future, spends his last money on her, trying in vain to interest the queen. But the queen remains cold and unyielding.
The gentleman is left without money and without a lady. It is clear that it would be better if he invested this money in his own growth.
Man and woman, stress and scandals.
He thought that by entering into a relationship, he had acquired an ally who would always support him.
In fact, it turns out that in the evening, returning home with a feeling of colossal fatigue and expecting to be met there by a faithful wife.
A man receives a fresh portion of a scandal made up of nothing almost from the doorway.
And so every day.
She is always dissatisfied with everything. She is dissatisfied with the income of his friends, relatives, the way he speaks, sits, stands, lies, looks, dresses, etc.
Therefore, if a man wants to lose the peace and quiet of the house, then such a relationship can be provided for him by his princess.
Man and woman, moment will come.
She will coldly announce that they have different views. She can no longer associate this with living together. She thought for a long time and came to the conclusion that they need to divorce.
This usually happens, perhaps, she will even start with a tear. She will quickly throw off the mask of a loving wife.
Everything will happen in order to divorce him faster. Then she will conveniently take half of what once belonged to the man.
By the way, maybe even more so if they have children!
A man should be smart.
He should be extremely careful and discreet when he starts building a relationship with a woman.
If she literally persuades a man to take her as his wife, then he should take the first signal of danger. Such a call proves that something is wrong here.
If a lady takes an extreme step and puts forward an ultimatum – either a wedding or a divorce, then in principle there can be no doubt at all about her “honesty”.
Therefore, at any stage of the relationship, a man must first control his emotions. Otherwise, it may turn out that today he has everything for a happy life, but tomorrow there will be nothing left of it.
However, his ex and beloved, who now lives in his apartment, will begin to hum at every step how good she is, that she has achieved everything.
Love and deceit.
She will impose on him what he does not want. Before meeting his beloved, the man stuck to his own rules. His own life principles and habits, which made his life bright, rich and interesting with events.
And most importantly – no one told him during his bachelor days how to behave, what to do and where to go.
When the relationship with this princess begins, everything will go wrong. One fine day, the young lady will suddenly want to start eating right and go on a diet.
As a result, instead of the usual and tasty food, he is forced to chew grass and drink it with water all day long.
The lady decided that a pet is needed in the house. He knows that nothing but wool all over the house, spoiled furniture and walks in the winter at six in the morning will be the norm.
He will always have to rise above his ego. All this, only for the sake of love, for the princess. This should not happen for several reasons.
A normal man should also live according to his real interests.
A woman either accepts such rules, or she is rejected.
I suggest you think about whether she will be the real one and the only one before you completely get under the “wife’s slipper”.
A husband under the “wife’s slipper”, is it humiliating?
Is it acceptable? My thoughts on this, in general, an interesting topic. I will see how relevant it is from the readers’ genuine attention to the problem.
A husband under the wife’s “slipper”!
A typical marriage assumes that its participants will be each other’s partners. I think this is a logical joint decision of two people.
This happens by combining friendship and love between a man and a woman.
It is assumed that the dominant role should be played by a man as the winner and the stronger “individual” in mental and physical terms.
However, sometimes the situation takes a different turn, and the wife takes the lead. Moreover, she does not dominate in the traditional form, there is no violence!
She takes care and protects her husband in every possible way. It is customary to call such wives “mommies”, because the husband gets the role of a son and behaves like a child.
The essence of the question.
Let’s take into account those people who want to ridicule this type of husband. It will be fair, so as not to raise this topic in the wrong direction.
By the way, this does not always mean that in mutual relations such a man is “rag” and dishonest.
A man who is supervised by a wife-mother can be quite successful in the social sphere.
He often has a wide range of social connections and decent financial wealth. This is just a way to regulate relationships.
The situation is meant when the woman is delegated the right to show more care.
The main thing is that both spouses are satisfied with this order of things. If this is not the case, then everyday life for two mentally equal partners will be unbearably difficult.
Someone will have to give up the initiative.
Man and a woman If, however, the wife dominates.
In this case, the man gives it to her willingly in order to realize the main thing, a profession or a hobby.
Such a man probably loved his mother, who overprotected him. He found a wife by the same nature.
It should be noted that the described trend often occurs in childless families. What is wrong if a successful marriage model is created in this way?
As if nothing! If both are good, then those around will also perceive it as a happy marriage.
Signs that a wife acts as a mother in marriage.
The wife fulfills all her husband’s whims, even the smallest. It happens that she personally tells him in the morning what to wear. Moreover, she chooses clothes for him.
The wife makes the final decision on important issues. There are financial difficulties – the woman is thinking about finding a part-time job.
The house needs renovation – the woman creates a budget for the purchase of materials and hires workers. Only the wife constantly cooks.
Personal and domestic problems are left at the mercy of the woman. Allowing the husband to engage only in professional activities.
A lady in such a marriage tends to unconsciously realize herself as a mentor who teaches her “child”.
Child – husband under the wife’s “slipper”
The woman tries to solve all the difficulties herself, without asking her husband for help. She can ask for help from relatives, but from her husband – only in extreme cases.
The wife sees in such marital uncertainty a manifestation of her husband’s irresponsibility.
For example, her reproach to her husband may sound like this. Husband, you stupidly missed the promotion?
An addition will immediately follow. It’s the employer’s fault, you, darling, are not to blame.
The wife is inclined to pity the man, rather than motivate him to correct his mistakes. For a man in such a marriage, love is far from the main thing. He must be taken care of.
A man practically forcibly forces a woman to accept the role of “mommy”.
Husband, conclusion on the topic.
I will repeat. A marriage in which relationships are built in this way has the right to exist if it gives peace and comfort to both partners.
However, it is important to understand that such relationships are often boring for spouses.
A man tries to either avoid care and change his partner, or go to another woman. A woman tries to make her husband a husband, not a child, or find a man who would suit her in this regard.
These are my thoughts, accept or not, it’s up to you. I think that this cannot harm the my mentality, to the point of destroying the marriage.
Good day!
