Lies. I understood that this word was not unfamiliar to my man from his behavior. It’s not that his lies have drastically changed our shared understanding of life. However, in his opinion, harmless lies are just an addition to his well-being. They help him discard everything unpleasant and avoid unnecessary explanations.
Lies, what are these harmless lies?
Essentially, just small things, but I started to notice that these little things were becoming an unpleasant part of his daily life… an invented collection of “facts.”
I began to get tired of it, and that’s when I realized that the boundary between truth and lies had disappeared. I told him this in quite a sharp manner.
In return, I got an avalanche of counterarguments, claims that I was being ridiculous, that he never lies, and how could I even think of something like that? I even started to doubt the validity of my own suspicions. So, I began observing his behavior when he lied and discovered some patterns.
It’s important to recognize where “harmless” lies can grow into something much worse. To be honest, I’ll admit that a lot of what I’ve learned about lies and how to detect them comes from the internet.
So, here’s a short guide on how to recognize false information when someone is trying to feed it to you in a conversation. For understandable reasons, lying causes discomfort and tension in a person.
Psychologically, a liar doesn’t want to “stand out” too much or use too many words. When lying, a person wants to quickly mix fragments of truth with lies and then shift the conversation to another topic.
I’ve noticed that when my man starts lying, he turns slightly to the side—avoiding eye contact. Now we’ve reached the more interesting part of this article—how lies manifest in unconscious gestures.
As we’ve established, lying creates discomfort because telling the truth is always easier.
False information generates tension.
That’s why liars unconsciously try to reduce this tension. For example, by frequently touching their cheeks, forehead, nose, or neck. This also happens when a person simply leaves something unsaid.
Lies become particularly noticeable when a person covers their mouth or the lower part of their nose with their hand.
This happens at a reflexive level—unconsciously. So, you can almost certainly determine the moment when the flood of lies begins.
There’s one more thing to keep in mind.
Don’t interpret a single gesture in isolation from other gestures and circumstances. If someone rubs their eye, it might simply be itchy. A person might just be tired or have a stuffy nose.
Remember that lies reveal themselves through multiple signals at the same time. Before concluding that someone is lying, you should observe at least two, preferably three, nonverbal signs.
I have a drawing that highlights the main signs. In my case, during a lie, my man would adjust his shirt collar—a subconscious movement as if something was choking or irritating him.
I suggest confronting lies with directness and immediately letting your partner know: “Don’t lie, I know everything!” Either he will abandon this bad habit, or your paths may separate. Lies weaken love or destroy it entirely.
A sad truth, lies are the beginning of the end of love.
I’ll put it this way: “True love is not a product you can buy. True love is the unique bond between two people.” However, harmonious coexistence is rarely perfect—especially when a cloud of lies appears.
The sad truth surrounds you.
How does it all begin, and how does it lead to misunderstanding and a painful ending? There are many cases where couples fail to maintain love in their relationship.
The sooner you recognize the problems in your relationship, the easier it will be to move forward and make the right decisions.
There are two choices!
Either you continue living together without love, or you go your separate ways. If you can recognize the early signs that your partner no longer loves you, you may be able to make the right decision for your future.
Believe me, it will be for your own good in the long run!
Love has faded, and lies have taken its place.
This time, let’s analyze the problem from a man’s perspective, but everything written here can also apply from a woman’s point of view.
A man may feel that his wife no longer cares about him and that her attachment to him is gradually fading. It may seem like she has lost interest in life altogether.
In reality, she has only lost interest in her partner. It’s as if all the energy that once filled her life has suddenly disappeared.
She no longer cares about your appearance.
She used to tell you that you looked good. But now? All such compliments have vanished. Practically nothing remains of the attention she once paid to you.
A sad truth, relationships.
You realize that she sees your relationship fading away, yet she makes no effort to save it from a slow, painful death. She no longer has the patience to deal with prolonged arguments, even over small matters.
Your communication has decreased.
Communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. When you and your partner no longer have deep and meaningful conversations, it likely means you’ve lost interest in each other, and the spark in your relationship is dying.
She acts independently, without considering your opinion.
Your thoughts and feelings no longer matter to her. She does whatever she wants, regardless of how you feel about it. If her actions make you feel uncomfortable, it simply means she doesn’t love you anymore.
She no longer appreciates your romantic gestures.
She used to be happy when you brought her gifts or flowers. Now, she responds to all your efforts with indifference.
You are always the one initiating conversations.
If you feel like you’re the only one making an effort to start conversations while she avoids them, that’s a red flag.
If she truly loved you, she would want to talk to you about anything. She used to seek your advice, opinions, and support. Now, all you hear from her is rejection.
Let’s look at the signs that indicate it’s time to end a relationship:
1. All romance between you has disappeared.
2. She no longer demands your attention.
3. She no longer pays attention to you.
4. Physical intimacy is rare.
5. Lies leave permanent scars on your life together.
She (or he) once constantly wanted to communicate with you throughout the day. Now, she barely acknowledges your presence. She no longer asks for your attention because she no longer feels the need for it.
Kisses, hugs, and affection—all in the past. When intimacy fades, you can be sure that your woman no longer loves you. Make your conclusions with a clear mind, but the most important thing is to understand—is it worth continuing to torture yourself and your partner?
Remember, the beginning of the end is always lies.
Have a great day, without lies!
